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When Lysa Terkeurst announced that she was releasing a new book entitled, “Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely,” my first thought was, “Cool. A new book. But, I doubt I’ll read it because that doesn’t really apply all that much to me.”
See, I was the girl in elementary school that, while never fully entrenched in the “popular” crowd, I wasn’t a loner either. I was a friend to all my teachers and most of the students alike; talkative and extroverted, not afraid to answer questions in class or be involved in school clubs. I had a few close friends, sure, and was in the drama club crowd, but I was also friendly with most people of most crowds, whether they were considered popular or not. I never had a shortage of birthday party invites and can honestly not remember being picked on or bullied. That was how I was raised. God created and loved everyone and they were worthy of being treated well. This followed me into high school. I can remember one girl in high school during my senior year that was a bit scary towards me, but that was over a boy (of course it was), random and didn’t last very long. While we are on the subject of boys, I have never really had a huge, heartbreaking rejection episode. I am well aware of the fact that I had a very blessed childhood and that has followed me into adulthood. Blessings run rapid. God is good to me. From my experiences, I didn’t really think that this book would apply to me.
However, the book kept popping up in my various social media feeds and emails. The Lord was clearly trying to tell me something. I am also a bit of a fangirl of Lysa and of her ministry, Proverbs 31. I decided to order it and read it anyway, thinking I could write a review that others would find helpful. Let me just tell you, I am not finished the book yet (just finished chapter 10), but I just had to stop and share something now. Go. Run. Do. Not. Walk. Get a copy of this book today. Like, right now! Well, on second thought, first finish reading this, then go get it. Oh, and better put some tissues on that shopping list too, as well as some highlighters and coffee. Buy them all, set up some quiet time, get that coffee brewing, grab your Bible and get reading.
God is using this book to pull my heartstrings in many ways. Through Lysa’s words, He is humbling me and reminding me of grace given, grace I need to give, that He alone is enough, that I am enough through Him and the need for me to live loved because I am loved. God is using Lysa’s words to help me acknowledge and give over to Him in prayer, feelings of rejection and loneliness that I wasn’t aware of; feelings that were lying under the surface. He is also pointing out ways in which I may have unintentionally caused someone else to experience these things. That is hard thing to admit.
Lysa shares some very honest, raw and personal experiences and combines them with solid, truth speaking, Biblical foundations. Her words are articulate and flow beautifully. Yet, they are completely down to earth and relatable. I am a highlighter of these genres of books, and the chapters I have read so far are highlighted to the max! So much so, I could probably write a whole series of posts to cover them all. But I won’t because I want you to get this book, read it and allow God to speak to your heart through Lysa’s words. I do, however, want to take a minute to share with you a couple of passages that leapt off the pages and into my heart:
“The beliefs we hold should hold us up even when it feels like life is falling apart…feelings are broken boards. Only truth is solid, unchanging and through and through…My identity must be anchored to the truth of who God is and who He is to me. Only then can I find stability beyond what my feelings will ever allow. The closer I align my truth with His truth, the more closely I identify with God-and the more my identity really is in Him.” (pg. 16-17)
“When we abide, delight, and dwell in Him, He then places within us desires that line up with His best desires for us. Therefore, He can give us whatever we ask, because we will only want what’s consistent with His best. He can fully satisfy our hearts, because they are consistent with His heart. He can promise us stability, because we’re tapped into His consistent power. This is the fullness of the person who can truly live loved…Fullness comes to us when we remember to be with Him before going out to serve Him. He wants our hearts to be in alignment with Him before our hands set about doing today’s assignment for Him.” (pg. 39)
“If we allow our thoughts to stink, that smell will leak out of every bit of us-our words, our actions, and especially our reactions…As Jesus girls, we can’t walk in victory while wallowing in thoughts of defeat and rejection. We must carry with us the sweet aroma of knowing Jesus everywhere we go…When we know Christ, it should show in our overflow, regardless of our relative success or discouragement in the face of rejection. From our hearts to our thoughts to our words to our actions, we have no business rolling in stink.” (pg. 119-121)
I am hopeful that from these few passages, Lysa’s words affected you enough that you want to grab this book for yourself. I also encourage you to sign up at Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies for the upcoming accompanying Bible study to this book starting in September. I have participated in several of them over the last two years and will absolutely vouch for the authenticity of the study. There are many opportunities for interaction and encouragement from others. You can also participate by way of being involved in a small group of about twenty other ladies through a private Facebook group during the length of the study.
Maybe I will see you in one of those groups! Until next time, He’s got your back!
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