Cultivating a Love That Lasts (Book Review)

Love That Lasts by Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke is a fresh look at God’s design for love, dating, marriage and sex.

Although both raised in a Christian culture, the Bethkes had different outlooks on relationships and marriage that didn’t exactly line up with God’s design as outlined in His Word. As such, they both had struggles with issues of self-worth that stemmed from things such as porn and an eating disorder. Through alternating chapters, the couple share, very candidly, how these struggles affected any relationship they tried to form. They share the rocky road that God led them on to finding each other and the grace He showed them through His Word that opened their eyes to the joy that relationships can be when you apply God’s Word to them.

I was on Jeff’s last launch for It’s Not What You Think, read his first book Jesus > Religion, and now this book.  I feel the same after reading each one. There are some people, that no matter their ages, God has just gifted with the ability to mentor others both younger and older than themselves. Jeff Bethke is one such person. It was lovely to get to know his wife through the pages of this book and I think this same line of thought applies to her as well. They are Biblically grounded and have a genuine love of people in the sense that God calls us to love others. This love and desire to help others jumps off the pages at you.

I have been married 18 years and I wish this book was available to me and my husband prior to our marriage. We were counseled in surface things,” What are your thoughts on finances, kids, etc.? You both believe in God? Cool. You are good to go.”  As such, our marriage has been a struggle at times as things constantly come to the surface that were never really addressed before we were married.

This book digs past the surface stuff and digs deep into the hard stuff. Every person, young or old, single or married should consider these things when seeking out a marriage partner. This would be great for pre-marriage counseling, or a teen or young adult class, even.

I personally will be using it as a tool to go through with my fifteen-year-old son, as the topics addressed are topics I desire him to know about himself and the Lord, so that as he grows older and steps into the dating scene, he will do so with the wife in mind that God has for him.

A beautiful book that once again, reminded me, He’s got my back, whatever the topic.

*Please note, I was given an advanced copy as part of the launch team in exchange for an honest review. *

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